Fear of happiness

As a therapist, I know a lot about fear and how it plagues people’s lives. Before the sudden death of my husband,...

Anger is more than a stage

Everyone talks about anger as being a “stage” of the grieving process. I’d like to formally call bullshit on this. I know that there...

Embrace the messy

W hen grief entered my life I immediately felt that my life got messy. I felt like a mess and my life felt so messy....

Flirting – a sign of growth

There are a ton of things that are simply odd about being a widow. But I have to say that the oddest one is...

My 3rd Christmas Without You

Hello love, This is my third Christmas without you. I can honestly say that I didn’t think that I would...

Why I don’t visit his gravesite

I have been wrestling with guilt lately. I know, that guilt isn’t a good buddy to cuddle up to on a Friday night, but...

The kindness of strangers

I live on the West Coast of Canada which means that our fall season is marked by days on end of rain. Our summers...

Art as a form of Prayer

For a long time now, I have broken up with the radio. I found that they focused more on commercials trying to sell me...

National Grief Awareness Day: Thank you to my tribe

Today is National Grief Awareness Day….well in the United States it is. As a Canadian, we typically just piggy back on somethings that make...

Family Vacations

I haven’t’ been on a family vacation for two years. This week, I find myself on a beautiful lake with my family for the...

Lessons from grief and love

Grief is a strange and funny thing. It enters your life suddenly without permission and hangs around for the rest of your life. There...

Managing Flashbacks

There are times that are easier to manage the flashbacks. And there are times that I’m bombarded by them. Most people on the outside,...

Lesson #2: Find community

Widowhood has been such a challenging identify for me to take on. I didn’t know any widows personally and I never thought I would...

Lessons from Year 1 of Widowhood: Betrayal of Time

The first year of widowhood hit me like a ton of bricks. Being a widow was not something I was prepared for and the...

“We” to “I”

I knew early on that Tony was my soul mate. Besides all the fun dating was at the beginning and the immediate connection we...

Therapy for the Therapist

Therapy….another big step.  There are many things to consider when deciding to go to therapy. As a therapist I know that going to therapy is...

The Missing

I had a conversation with a friend of mine that has stuck with me for months and I continue to reflect on this conversation....

Grieving through Yoga 

Ihad an off and on-again relationship with yoga. The research that supports the benefits of yoga both physically and emotionally is immense and I supported it in...

Me vs. the Lawnmower  

It’s difficult to tally all the changes that come after the death of Tony. There are major changes and then there are the small...

Netflix, Pizza and Pyjamas  

Right after Tony’s death, I was busy with figuring out funeral arrangements, managing family and problem solving the immediate things that come along with...